1. aaj kal ke nesten sab laarkon ne girlfriends rakhi hui hai. Maa baap ko kuch nahin bata aur jab unko kehne ki baat aati hai to ladka peeche haddh jaata hai. Leaves the girl as nothing had happen.. Aisa kyon hota hai ke ladka girlfriend rakh lete hai, but jab baat aati hai shaadi ki to they want to marry a “good (clean)” girl? Even though they have been all around the place. Khud ladkiyon se pyar ka nadhak karte hai aur baad mein wohi ladkion ko “bad” girls bana lete hai. Is it fair?? Main maanti hoon ke koi ladke hoge jo apne parents ko sab sach bata ke apni hi girlfriends ke saat zindagi bidaana chahte hoge. Lekin sab tho aisa nahin hai? Can u relate to the boys when they later want to marry a “good” girl? Is it the girls own fault, should she know better?? Have u ever been in that situation yourself? Being the boy/girl who leaves their “love” to marry someone “better”? Or being the one who had been left?
2. Another Question: Agar aap ko bata chalta ke jis ladki/ladke ke ghar se aap ka rishta aaya hai, us ne pehle boyfriend/girlfriend rakhi hui thi (even though they now have broken up), kya aap un se shaadi karne ke liye tayaar hote? If u knew ke aapne khud aisa koi kaam nahin kiya lekin jis ne rishta maanga hai, woh pehle ek relationship mein the, to aap phir bhi haan kehte? Will u consider it, or wait for a “unused” partner (when u know u haven’t done anything like that yourself?) ??

I think ke jo loog pehle boy/girlfriend rakh ke baad mein kehte hai they want to marry a “good” person, they apply double standards. How can they want a partner with no “past” when they themselves have been fooling around? But people who have stayed away from the opposite sex, in my opinion deserve better. There should be an advantage, bcoz everyone would like to get attention from the opposite sex, but still they absent oneself, for the sake of their future.

Kaha tha na…….

iss tarhan sote hue chor kay mut jana
mujhe beshak jaga dea,
bata dena

kay tumhain rasta badlna hai,
mairi hud say nikalna hai,

Tumhain kiss baat ka durr tha ??????????
kia mai janay nahin daita?
kahin pay qaid kar laita??????

aray pagal mohabbat ki tabiat mai zabrdasti nahin hoti
jissay rasta badlna hai ussay rasta badlanay say
jissay hud say nikalna ho ussay hud say nikalnay say

na koi rok paya hai na koi rok payega

tumhain kiss baat ka durr thaaa??

mujhe jaga daitayyy

buss yeh yaad rakhna aye hum dum
ab in jagti ankhon mai
khuwab tumharay he bastay hain
in ankhon kay ansoon mai
tumhari yaadon kay deep
ban kay mom chalaktay hain

buss yaad yeh rakhna aye mairay hum dum
in ankon ki roshni kay bujhnay tak
mai intezar kay deep jalaonga
mairy ghar kay rastay pay
tairi qadmon ki ahat ko sun kay he jaonga

apni sansoon kay thumnay tak
apnay jism kay marnay tak
tujhe dil mai basoonga

buss taira kahlaooonga

kay sansoon kay thamnay ki waja bhi sirf yahi ho gi

“iss dunia mai na sahi , agli dunia mai to mairi ho gii”

A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said:

‘Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year. old and I’m pregnant again. I don’t want kids so close together.’

So the doctor said: ‘Ok and what do you want me to do?’

She said: ‘I want you to end my pregnancy, and I’m counting on your help with this.’

The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: ‘I think I have a better solution for your problem. It’s less dangerous for you too.’

She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.

Then he continued: ‘You see, in order for you not to have to take care 2 babies at the same time, let’s kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we’re going to kill one of them, it doesn’t matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.

The lady was horrified and said: ‘No doctor! How terrible! It’s a crime to kill a child!
‘I agree’, the doctor replied. ‘But you seemed to be ok with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution. The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.

He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that’s already been born and one that’s still in the womb. The crime is the same!

If you agree, then together we can help save precious lives!

salam to all

mai aap sab yai pochna chata hoon, k 4 example, k aap kisi ko

love kartay hain vo be karta hai,but some couse ki waja say aap

k lover nay kah dia k muje tum say nafrat hai, mai tum say shadi

nahe karty ya nahe karon ga, theek but aap k dil mai us k liyai pir

be chahat hai, aur aap us ko us k es response k baad be aap us

ko chahatay hain aur yaad rahay k aap us ko bay panah, bay

intaha chahatay hain , jessay chahanay ka haqq hai, tu vo aap

ki/ ka lover aap say baat tak nahe karta , magar aap k dil mai us

k liyai muhabbat wessi ki wessi he hai, ab assay mai koi aur 3rd

person aap ki life mai aata hai aur aap ko propose kar deta hai,

aur kahta hai k muje aap say bay panah muhabbat ho gaee hai,

aur mai aap ka saath chaty hoon, tu aap mera saath do gay?

aur us 3rd person ko yai be pata hoo k aap pahlay kisi aur ko

love kartay thay , aur vo aap say poch lay k kia mai aap ki

pahli lover ki jaga lay sakty hoon?

aap meri baat kisi had tak samaj he gaey hon gay,

tu es sab k baad aap us 3rd person ko kia kahoo gay, k haan

mai tumhara saath doon ga, jab k aap k dil mai kisi aur ki

muhabbat hai?

ya aap majboor ho jao gay sochnay par?

aap k ans ka intazaar rahay ga muje……………. …..

salaam

its kind of serious topic but its about pyar .. muhabbat …

pehlay ek story sunana chahon ga jo k meray dost k saath howi .. woh daily uni aata tha phr achanak say 1 weak nahi aaya .. i called him ghar walo nay uthaya k uska accident ho gaya hy .. aur woh Ziauddin Hospital main hy.. hum sab frndz gae waha .. he was in ICU .. totally UN-concious .. dekh kar rona aa gaya.. beher-haal usk ghar walo say pocha tu pata chala k ammi nay daant diya tha .. tu gussay main aa kar rats poison pee liya.. aur phr yeh sab ho gaya.. uski death nahi howi .. woh abhi bhi zinda hy .. 2 saal ho gae is incident ko but woh ek zinda laash hy..

yeh story sunanay ka sirf yeh maqsad tha.. k jo aap say pyar kartay hy wohi aapko dukh bhi detay hy i mean unhi ki baato par aap hurt hotay hy aur isi say pata chalta hy k woh aapki aur aap unki care kartay hy…
so hamesha yeh yaad rakhay.. aur ziyada emotional na ho.. cuz unko haq hota hy hamein daatnay ka aur hamein hurt karnay ka…

thora sa time day apnay aap ko b day .. aur saamnay walay ko bhi.. …

To My Friends Who Are SINGLE :

Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love’s only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

To My Friends Who Are NOT SINGLE:

Love isn’t about becoming somebody else’s “perfect person.” It’s about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

To My Friends Who Are.. PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE :

Never say “I love you” if you don’t care. Never talk about feelings if they aren’t there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in the eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn’t intend to catch her fall and it works both ways…

To My Friends Who Are………… Married:

Love is not about “it’s your fault”, but “I’m sorry. “Not “where are you”, but “I’m right here.” Not “how could you”, but “I understand.” Not “I wish you were”, but “I’m thankful you are.”

To My Friends Who Are………… Engaged

The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.

To My Friends Who Are………… HEARTBROKEN:

Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

To My Friends Who Are………… NAIVE:

How to be in love: Fall but don’t stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never beunfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.

To My Friends Who Are…………POSSE SSIVE:

It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it’s more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

To My Friends Who Are………… AFRAID TO CONFESS:

Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurt seven more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.

Lesson from This Beautiful Mail:

A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn’t worth it. If he isn’t worth it now he’s not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go…..

TO ALL MY FRIENDS…….
My wish for you is a man/women whose love is honest, strong, mature, never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish that will be true Love. Try to understand Love and its feeling honestly you should value time when to express your feeling. because time only know how valuableLove is

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What is more painful?

Living with the person you DONT Love

I am now going to show you the treatment for false love. Tell me, if that boy who stopped performing salâh for six months, whose face was gone pale and whose bones were sticking out, had he not come to me, would he not have died? I then showed him the treatment. The illness of false love comes out with much difficulty. It takes a person’s life away, it conveys him to the graveyard. Therefore, everyone must listen attentively. Hakîm ul Ummah Mujaddid ul Millah Maulânâ Ashraf ‘Alî Thânwî rahimahullâh provides one treatment. He says that if your eyes fall on a beautiful woman and love for her is not coming out of the heart, then listen to this treatment for false love, listen to this treatment for removing the love of all apart from Allâh Ta’ala from the heart.
(1) Wear clean clothes, apply perfume, and read Lâ ilâha illallâh 500 times. When you say Lâ ilâha, then imagine that you have completely expelled all the idols which are embedded in your heart. When you say illallâh, then imagine that the light of Allâh Ta’ala has entered your heart, and that this reading of yours has reached the greatest Throne (‘Arsh) and met Allâh Ta’ala.
A Hadîth of Mishkât states that when a servant reads Lâ ilâha illallâh on earth, it traverses the seven heavens and meets Allâh Ta’ala. A narration of Mishkât states:
لاَ إِلٰهَ إِلاَّ اللهُ لَيْسَ لَهَا حِجَابٌ دُوْنَ اللهِ
(المشكوة، كتاب الدعوات، ج: 2، ص: 716، المكتب الإسلامي)
There is no barrier preventing Lâ ilâha illallâh reaching Allâh Ta’ala
So if a person gets the inspiration to read Lâ ilâha illallâh he must understand that he has been able to meet Allâh Ta’ala, the Most Affectionate One, through it. Although we are unable to go to Him, this reading of ours is meeting Allâh Ta’ala. Ask the true lovers the value of this.
A poet says:

بس ہے اپنا ایک نالہ بھی اگر پہنچے وہاں
گرچہ کرتے ہیں بہت سے نالہ و فریاد ہم
It is sufficient for just one lamentation of ours to reach there even though we engage in many lamentations and appeals.

Inshâ Allâh, through the blessing of Lâ ilâha illallâh, the appearance of the heart will change within a few days. Even if a person became insane and he was taking Valium 5 and Valium 10 (sleeping pills), he will give up all this and will get sleep through the blessing of the name of Allâh Ta’ala.

جب نہیں دی مجھے حلال کی مے
کیوں پیوں چھپ کے میں حرام کی مے
When I am not given halâl wine, why should I sneak and drink harâm wine?
Those who are not married or their wives are gone sick or old should not spoil their eyes by looking here and there.

So what is the first treatment? Read Lâ ilâha illallâh 500 times and include Muhammadur Rasûlullâh occasionally as well. Inshâ Allâh, through the blessings of this, the heart will be purified of all apart from Allâh Ta’ala, and it will be filled with the love of Allâh Ta’ala. Secondly, think about yourself that you will have to go into the grave one day and the boy or girl whom you love will also have to go into the grave one day. Imagine that the bodies of both have become decomposed and reduced to soil. Now dig up both their graves and ask their soil – the soil of the beloved boy and of the beloved girl – O soil! Where have all your kisses and licks gone to? Where have all those body parts with which you used to commit sins gone to? You departed with curses from this world. A poet says:
نیکواں رفتند و سنت ہا بماند
و از لئیماں ظلم و لعنت ہا بماند
The pious servants have departed from this world, but their ways and habits are remembered. The wretched servants have departed but their sins and immoralities are discussed and curses are being sent to them.

Look at the condition of the film actors. Look at how much evil glances these naked women are inviting towards! All these curses will fall on them as well. The sin of all the deceased who looked at these women who displayed themselves with lust will fall on these women as well

(3) The third treatment for false love is that you must imagine that the Resurrection is taking place. Allâh Ta’ala is asking you, “Where did you waste your youth? Where did you use your eyes? Did your parents give you these eyes or did I create these eyes in your mother’s womb and placed in them the ability to see?”
These lips of yours will also speak on the day of Resurrection. Allâh Ta’ala says:
اَلْيَوْمَ نَخْتِمُ عَلىٰ أَفْوَاهِه ِمْ وَتُكَلِّم ُنَا أَيْدِيْهِ مْ وَتَشْهَدُ أَرْجُلُهُ مْ بِمَا كَانُوْا يَكْسِبُوْ نَ
(سورة يٰس، آية: 65)

This Day shall We set a seal on their mouths, and their hands shall speak to Us, and their feet shall bear witness to whatever they used to earn.” (Sûrah Yâ Sîn, 36: 65)
Allâh Ta’ala shall set a seal on your mouths, and your hands and feet shall speak. What will they say? Maulânâ Rûmî rahimahullâh depicts this as follows:

دست گوید من چنیں دُزدیدہ ام
لب بگوید من چنیں بوسیدہ ام
The hand will say: “O Allâh! We used to pick pockets, we used to steal.” The lips will testify: “We used to kiss non-mahram women and young boys.”

On the Day of Resurrection you will learn how much of respect and dignity is being accorded to your lips. You will be asked, did you not know:
جو کرتا ہے تو چھپ کے اہلِ جہاں سے
کوئی دیکھتا ہے تجھے آسماں سے
When you do something in privacy away from the people, Someone from the heavens is watching you

Some people tell me that I speak a lot about false love and evil glances. I say to them that if a village is plagued by cholera, what should we worry about, colds and flu, or cholera? Evil glances, open display of beauty, videos, cinemas, film songs, etc. are totally destroying our youth. O you who are sitting in your homes like ducks! What do you know as to what is happening? As long as the desolateness of beauty and the conditions of the graveyard are not explained, the îmân of our youngsters will be destroyed by these women who are parading nakedly everywhere.

I saw a youngster belonging to a noble and distinguished family whose face had gone pale. His cheekbones were sticking out and his eyes were gone hollow. I asked him, “What is happening to you? Are you suffering from tuberculosis?

He replied, “No, one boy showed me a pornographic film. Six months have passed since and I have not performed salâh. I am in an impure state all the time. My thoughts are going to that film all the time. When I am in prostration, the same thoughts come to me. When I perform salâh and go into prostration, that pornographic film comes to my mind.”

Some weak and frail youngsters constantly come to me and say to me, “I am going to poison myself. I have disgraced myself so much by committing adultery that I have no strength left. I am going to get married soon. Treat me so that I may get back my strength.”

Why did they have to take this poison? I have a poem in this regard:

حسینوں سے جسے پالا پڑا ہے
اسے بس سنکھیا کھانا پڑا ہے
The one who became engrossed with women had to resort to taking poison.
There are two meanings to this:

(1) If a person becomes separated and did not get a woman, he would be overtaken by grief, resort to arsenic (poison) and die.

(2) If he gets his beloved, he had wasted so much of his xxxxxx strength that he became impotent. He now has to resort to taking arsenic.

Therefore, in both situations – attachment (obtaining the beloved) and detachment (separation from the beloved) – he had to take arsenic.

I have so many stories portraying the destructiveness of false love, that if I were to write about the destructiveness of the conflict between beauty and love, the destruction of health, and the desolateness of îmân, it would result in a book of 5000 pages.

As salaam o Alikum!!!

Khuch poochna tha app se

Hamari zindagi main jin logoon ki ahmiyat hoti hai ham un se
mohabbat karte hain ya nafrat.
Lekin 1 insan jis ki hamari zindagi main bohat ahmiyat hai,yaani wo hamri zindagi ka ahem hiss hai.
agar us k bare main dil ko tatola jaye or lage k na to ham us se mohabbat karte hain or na hi nafrat
Kiya aisa ho sakta hai???
or
Agar aisa hai to phir kiya hai??? agar aisa nahi hai to phir kiya hai???